How’s Your Relationship With God?

🔥 Too Much of Me

How is your relationship with God?

Good? Bad? Non existent?

The fundamental principle of establishing and maintaining a relationship with God is the bedrock of freedom from your problems…

Whatever those problems are…

My problem was too much of me on top of me…

Bondage ti self was the root…

I can never get too much of God…

In my experience the 12 Steps is the only method that has enabled me to establish conscious contact with God…

Everything else failed.

Make sure your relationship with God is right and good things will come to pass.

Paul

Escape Self

🔥 Escape From Self-Concern

The fundamental principles of the 12 Step program are ridiculously simple…

But simple is powerful…

Powerful enough to save a wreck like me…

Like you…

The simple solution to freedom from the bondage of self…

Freedom from your self-concern

Is to become concerned with other people’s needs…

To become concerned only with helping others…

“Take away my difficulties that I may bare witness of victory over them to others”

Escape from self-concern, bondage to self can only be achieved by living each day concerned outside of yourself…

What better way to do this than to live to serve those who still suffer as we once did.

Paul

What Faith Does

🔥 Nothing To Lose

Before you begin your day today, ask yourself this question:

What purpose will I serve today?

Will I be serving a purpose at all?

Or will I live today just like every other day taking what I want from life and leaving what I don’t want…

Will I avoid the difficulties and only take the easy tasks at hand…

“When we became alcoholics, crushed by a self-imposed crisis we could not postpone or evade, we had to fearlessly face the proposition that either God is everything or else He is nothing. God either is, or He isn’t. What was our choice to be?

  • The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous

The above paragraph brings into our lives the question of faith.

The most difficult experience for anyone to go through, is to maintain faith when things are not going your way. When the need to control a situation is overwhelming and yet the principle of faith requires you to stand down and let it happen the way it should happen.

Sound familiar?

We come to find that faith did for us what we couldn’t do for ourselves…

Faith had to come first in everything good and bad…hard and easy…

Only then can God be everything!

The way I looked at it my life had become so intolerably painful I had nothing to lose but to relinquish control and to let faith take control of the day.

Living in a daily experience of complete surrender is to live life with God in control.

Paul

A Powerful Past

🔥 Your past is The Raw Material For Today

“We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it. We will comprehend the word serenity and we will know peace”

  • The Step 9 Promises

Just as important it is to be free of resentment, the alcoholic must be free of guilt in order to live…

Life looks too painful through guilty eyes…

Other people look very sick through judgemental eyes…

Life looks impossibly difficult through a victim’s eyes…

The program offers a practical solution to the wreckage of our past…

The practice of step 9 amends is the final curtain coming down on our past…

The practice of making peace with our past…

The practice of step 12 is to use your past as the raw material for today…

That raw material becomes our greatest asset in life…

To bare witness of the wreckage if your past to another human being, is the most powerful experience on earth!

No regrets, no guilt…

A terrible past has become a life-saving asset.

Paul

Driven!

🔥 What Will Drive You Today?

Alcoholics are driven people…

Driven by fear…

Self-delusion…

Self-pity…

This is the result of a selfish, self-centered nature that needs to be constantly gratified just to feel ok.

But what if the alcoholic were to change drivers?

What if you were driven by selflessness?

Driven by the motive to serve others needs and not your own selfish needs?

What if you were driven by the divine principle of…your life is not about you?

What if when driven by the motive to live and serve outside of your own selfish means, you tap into a power that completes the incompleteness in you?

A simple yet very powerful remedy to the alcoholic’s dilemma of lack of power:

What will drive you today?

Your need to serve your own selfish, self-centered needs where there is no power on offer?

Or will you be driven by the need to serve outside yourself and help God’s kids were all the power you need is on offer?

Paul

A New Attitude

🔥 A New Attitude, A New Freedom

Step 7 suggests we ask God to remove all the pain accumulated from living a life of imprisonment to our own self-involvement.

“Pain is the admission price to new life. Self-centered fear chief activator of defects. Step Seven is change in attitude which permits us to move out of ourselves toward God.”

  • The 12 Steps and 12 Traditions.

The change of attitude that came to me in Step 7 was the realization that I was incapable of letting go of my pain no matter how hard I applied myself to working the program…

I have learned that if I leave the “letting go” part up to God by allowing him to remove my pain, I automatically start to move away from me and towards him.

This is my new found Step 7 attitude which I carry like a life belt every day of my life.

Moving towards God’s perfection in my imperfect state is all that is required of me one day at a time.

Paul

God In Charge

🔥 God In Charge

What does it mean to carry the vision of God’s will into your life every day?

“We constantly remind ourselves we are no longer running the show, humbly saying to ourselves many times each day “Thy will be done.” – The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous.

To me it’s very simple…

I carry out my daily tasks and I do not attempt to control the outcome of those tasks…

Some of those tasks will end in success and some in failure…

The lessons are learned and the corrective measures are left up to God…

Not me…

The work continues and the outcome of every day is better left in God’s hands…

The most self-destructive way to navigate life for someone like me, is to attach expectations to my own agendas…

Infact if I expect nothing and accept everything then I am truly living God’s vision for my life…

That way life is much simpler.

Paul

Primary Focus

🔥 Primary Focus

In order to achieve sobriety on a daily basis there can only be but one primary purpose in my life…

To stay sober and help other drunks like me…

Every day consistently and persistently…

My primary purpose has to be my primary focus…

My primary purpose of serving outside of my own needs every day has been the only effective solution for my alcoholism…

Focusing on others needs treats my internal condition of selfish and self-centered needs effectively enough to live free of the bondage of me…

Freedom from the bondage of me means freedom from my life being all about me…

The minute my life becomes all about me again, the insanity of alcohol will gradually and incrementally return…

When my primary focus is about:

My problems…
My wants and needs…
My money…
My possessions…
My plans and designs…
My way…
My control…
My management of my life…
Mine…mine…mine

The anger, fear, depression, anxiety, guilt, resentment returns and I begin to feel that sick and awful feeling about myself once again.

This has happened to me on many occasions in my recovery and it will happen to you without you knowing it..

Alcohol is indeed cunning, baffling and powerful and it is deceitful enough to attack not through the bottle, but through where you direct your focus every day, every hour, every minute.

Ask yourself this question:

Where has my daily focus been lately?

Not your daily actions but your daily focus, your primary focus…

You can be doing meetings every day, working with others every day, praying every day, but these become meaningless if your primary focus is you.

In Step 3 we are asked to make a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God by making a commitment to helping God’s kids, serving others, helping drunks just like me…

The ONLY way a guy like me can turn his will and life over to care of God is to no longer make my will and my life all about me…obviously!

Turning my focus away from me and towards helping God’s kids is the act of turning my will and life over to his care and as a result and abundance of God’s power abides over me.

Paul

Deadly Delusion

🔥 The Deadly Delusion

“Is he not a victim of the delusion that he can wrest satisfaction and happiness out of this world if he only manages well?”

  • The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous

Relying on any kind of external source to make you satisfied and happy with life is a futile and fatal exercise…

So many in recovery have gone to their grave through suffering from the delusion that they could gain happiness and satisfaction out of life if they just managed well…

If only I had more money…
If only I had an amazing home…
If only I had the right person in my life…
If only I had a happy family…
If only I had the right job…

As a result of my management then…

I would be happy!

And satisfied!

Here’s the problem with that:

You cannot treat an internal malady with outside stuff…

Attempting to treat untreated alcoholism with outside stuff doesn’t make it better, it makes it worse…

Why is that?

Any kind of external Abundance only magnifies the emptiness and scarcity that lives inside the alcoholic…

No amount of external Abundance can fill the lack of completeness in a person who is driven by fear and tortured with an absurd amount of self-involvement as the alcoholic is.

If the alcoholic is to gain everything externally and nothing changes internally, he gets to the worst place an alcoholic could possibly be.

The end of the rope of human power when you “got it all” but you feel like crap!
You wish for the end despite all your external abundance.

The alcoholic’s insides must match his outside’s…

In other words the alcoholic needs to find and live off an internal solution… as a result he is no longer dependent on any kind of external solution to solve any of his problems in life.

The internal solution is developing and maintaining a relationship with God and as a result accessing the power that fills the internal vacancy that exists inside us.

When our internal world is complete our external world is filled with the Abundance of peace and good will to all men.

Are you trusting and relying upon God for happiness and satisfaction, or are you still grasping on to your expectations of another person to satisfy you?

Paul

Unconditional love

🔥 The Part of Me I Needed To Find In Me.

How is it that the act of carrying this message in the 12Th step becomes such a powerful antidote to my basic problem of selfishness and self-centeredness?

You see having lived a life of running my life on self-will and being a natural self-seeker my life was all about “what can I gain out of this person or situation for me?”…

Even if it ment being gracious and kind in order to get my own way…

I was always the self-seeker looking to gain and maintain control…

But what was I really seeking for me?

The answer to this came to me once I became a practitioner of the 12th step…

For the first time I had to give of my time and energy to another person who had absolutely nothing to offer me in return for my self-seeking motives…

To give of myself to another alcoholic who probably wouldn’t stay sober long enough to be of any use to me at all…

And yet I found myself loving the hopeless part of this person that was just like me, and in turn I found how to love that part of me that I saw in this person…

Every alcoholic I have 12th stepped has turned out to be just like me!…

Hopeless, helpless and powerless over their disease…

Just as I was…

With nothing to give and everything to take…

And yet here I was time after time giving all of me to another human being who can give nothing back just as I had nothing.

I discovered that part of me that needs no reward for its giving, a part of me that I never knew existed…

And yet it was always there deep down inside blocked off from the sunlight of the spirit…

That part of me that is a part of you too…

Called unconditional love…

It was always there…

We just needed to know where to find it…

In another person just like you and me.

Paul