Unconditional love

🔥 The Part of Me I Needed To Find In Me.

How is it that the act of carrying this message in the 12Th step becomes such a powerful antidote to my basic problem of selfishness and self-centeredness?

You see having lived a life of running my life on self-will and being a natural self-seeker my life was all about “what can I gain out of this person or situation for me?”…

Even if it ment being gracious and kind in order to get my own way…

I was always the self-seeker looking to gain and maintain control…

But what was I really seeking for me?

The answer to this came to me once I became a practitioner of the 12th step…

For the first time I had to give of my time and energy to another person who had absolutely nothing to offer me in return for my self-seeking motives…

To give of myself to another alcoholic who probably wouldn’t stay sober long enough to be of any use to me at all…

And yet I found myself loving the hopeless part of this person that was just like me, and in turn I found how to love that part of me that I saw in this person…

Every alcoholic I have 12th stepped has turned out to be just like me!…

Hopeless, helpless and powerless over their disease…

Just as I was…

With nothing to give and everything to take…

And yet here I was time after time giving all of me to another human being who can give nothing back just as I had nothing.

I discovered that part of me that needs no reward for its giving, a part of me that I never knew existed…

And yet it was always there deep down inside blocked off from the sunlight of the spirit…

That part of me that is a part of you too…

Called unconditional love…

It was always there…

We just needed to know where to find it…

In another person just like you and me.

Paul

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Sober coach, Author, speaker